To make a pilgrimage is to travel far and participate in something holy, singular and transformative. On the death of a parent Jews make a pilgrimage thrice daily to a synagogue to participate in the same ritual, the kaddish said over and over. It doesn’t have to be far or near. It simply must be a place that Jews have decided is holy. And if we open our hearts, it is always transformative. That is what Max Miller discovered and documented in the year he said kaddish for his father.